Therapy has saved my mental health and, honestly, probably my life too. It had shown me so many skills that I have then honed to better myself and my surroundings and I am infinitely grateful for it.
There’s also another side to this therapy coin, one that I have only recently experienced. That is, when your therapist asks you where certain emotions come from and it starts you down a path of soul searching that leads to some pretty brutal self discovery about the flaws in your childhood that you never even realized contributed to the issues you face today.
It’s been eye opening and it has also shown me ways that I hope to parent differently in order to give my children a more secure childhood. The most important way I feel I can do that is to let them have their own private things. I never felt like I had my own private property as a child and that set me up for a lot of distrust in my adult relationships. Nothing was ever ‘mine’ and I lived in constant fear of being snooped on even though I had nothing to hide. I withdrew and made a live for myself online where I could be authentic and not get judged for wanting blue hair or a nose piercing or wanting to live in New York City. My parents never harshly judged me, but their actions caused me a lot of lack of self worth, for all their positive traits this is the only negative one.
I want my children to be free to dress (within reason) freely, not have screens until they are old enough to drive, and most importantly never feel like they have to hide anything from me, but they will also know that they can have privacy
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